Oy...

I'm starting to hate visiting the relatives. Whenever we go to Nana's, the conversation is almost always in Spanish. They'll laugh and talk and I'll be clueless. I remember before when running off to read or listen to music was said to be rude, but then they go and speak Spanish in front of me and that's not rude?? Okay, Gabriel speaks Spanish better, no big deal, I can hardly understand him in English anyway. And okay, Elizabeth speaks little English. Okay fine. But when she's not in the room, why can't they speak English? Laughing and talking, having a good ol' time... Yeah, no wonder I get bored out of my mind there.

So today we went to visit at Nana's cuz Uncle David, Aunt Elizabeth and my little cousins were coming up and we missed their last couple of visits in town. But oy.... Between all the Spanish speaking and annoying little cousins... Beniah, 6, Enoch, 4, and Melodia, 14mos.... The boys were so loud and noisey and kept running around or trying to attack stuff. Melodia just kept trying to play with stuff that she shouldn't, breakables... the boys toys... marbles...

There was no where to retreat. Normally I hide in the living room or family room. But there was a munchkin or Spanish conversation going on in almost all rooms. I love my family, but visiting extended family's never been uber fun. It's less so now.

Two things... I am SOOOO NOT having kids... Ugh... And if by some act or will of God I DO have kids, I'm not gonna subject them to rude relatives who insist on speaking a language they don't know in front of them. Either speak their language or go to another room and have your private talks. That or I'll just not bring them to visit. I hated it when I was a kid, and I hate it more so as an adult.

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I know what you mean... *hugs* I hate visiting relatives too. >.<

Posted by Melissa Tian on September 23, 2007 - Sunday - 9:56 AM


Mija, I understand what you are going through as I have gone through quite often and to me someone calling you rude for not participating and then precede to speak in their language is just down right stupid and ignorant on their part. But you have to choices you either learn the language enough to understand or do what I always did which is tell them to speak english. My mom would do that when she didn't want my friends to understand what she was telling me and on many occasions I would tell her that was rude if she didn't wan them to hear either tell me in private or wiat til they leave. But then again we are talking about your nana and that is a losing cause in the first place.

Posted by Tony the Tazman on September 23, 2007 - Sunday - 1:26 PM


with the right genes and the right boundaries, you'd have nothing to worry about;)

Posted by sarah on September 30, 2007 - Sunday - 8:59 AM